Christians and Toxic People
Victims of abuse with unhealed heart wounds often turn into toxic adults.
In order to fabricate self-worth and feel “in control” they have to manipulate others. Don’t wast too much breath trying to point this out to them; they will likely suck you into their cause while sucking your soul dry.
“So stop fooling yourselves! Evil companions will corrupt good morals and character.”
1 Corinthians 15:33 (TPT)
Do you hang around a co-worker, friend, or family member who claims to be Christian yet excels in negative behavior? Creating boundaries in these relationships is not unloving, it’s healthy and sane.
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Guard your heart against toxicity. 5 reasons why:
- Your values are of no concern to them. Through manipulation, they will force you into agreement with something that goes against your moral code.
- Their words tear you down. Psychologists agree that mean words cause a person more damage than being hit with sticks and stones.
- They send you on guilt trips. These trips are intended to make you feel like you need to help or fix them. You try to be nice yet end up being blamed for their problems. (Especially if you don’t comply with their wishes, see #1.)
- They will lie to you if it serves their purpose. Without blinking an eye, they will lie to your face.
- They will never say “I’m sorry.” The victim mentality won’t allow them to apologize for their bad behavior (see #2). And he/she will convince those in your circle of his/her innocence.
Be brave! Instead of trying to save them, step out of their path. Don’t block their road to professional help or God-intervention. The toxic person’s problem is not your problem.
Father in Heaven, thank you that Your Resurrection power is sufficient to heal all people of all wounds. Help me to step out of Your way by setting healthy boundaries. I ask You to bless every toxic person in my life with a revelation of Your kindness that leads to repentance so they can receive Your healing. In Jesus’s name.
Sowing Seeds of Bravery to Guard Hearts
